How to make people automatically like you

Do you want people to have an instant positive impression about you and make them like you and like your presence around them? But you find it so hard to break the ice between you and them? And you are tired of being ignored or sometimes avoided?

Well, of course, you will have no chance if you look like a grumpy cat having nothing to say but “I hate this world!” But don’t worry you can make it easily with some little changes in your behavior and your way of interaction with others.

Before sharing my tips with you, I want to tell you that you are not supposed to make everyone like you, and it is completely ok to be avoided by some people or hated by other ones. Even the nicest, good looking, smart, and funny celebrities can have haters and difficulties with some people.

The problem is when you have difficulties with everyone, while you are supposed to be close to others especially in professional context. By that said, let’s see how 4 simple tips can make people like you.

Smiling

Smiling means positivity, hope, happiness, goodness, and people are instinctively attracted to all that. Humans’ subconsciousness is all the time seeking happiness and positivity, and your smile can represent that and make people automatically like you. Smiling can make you look beautiful too by the way.

Try to smile when you meet someone and to maintain that smile while you are exchanging your first greeting words. Smile when you are introducing yourself to new people, smile when someone is telling you some funny stuff, smile when you are saying “See you tomorrow” etc. Smiling can also be useful as a self-confidence booster, and we both know people like confidence.

Be thankful

Even if you have the appearance of someone arrogant, saying “thank you I appreciate that” can instantly make you look a new humble and grateful person which people like a lot. People like also to be recognized for good things they do, and a “thank you” can completely change their day to better.

So make sure to be clearly thankful whenever others help you, give you a service, ask about you, care about your well being and everything they should be recognized for even if it is not so big or important for you.

Don’t try to look perfect

It’s a huge mistake to think that being perfect with no flaws will make people love you. Being perfect is against human nature, in other words, it will make you look inhuman and push people away. Being perfect can also make people feel uncomfortable around you because they are intimidated by you.

It is good to not know what to say from time to time, to say something stupid, to make mistakes, to ask for help. It’s good to be yourself, to be a simple human, people like that a lot.

Make jokes

Making jokes and being funny is the greatest way to break the ice between you and others. But you have to be careful because jokes are a double edged sword. Avoid harmful jokes, even if it will make just one person unhappy or offended, and make the rest laugh, let it down. 

Don’t come up with complicated jokes that can be understood wrong or make people feel confused. To be safely funny, you can, for example, make jokes about yourself, make jokes based on how a person is good on something, or make a comparison between something happening and the story of a funny TV show for example. The point is we all love to laugh and to have agreeable moments, and to be the creator of these moments will, of course, make people like you.