How to know if he is the right one

As it has been mentioned in a previous article about How to know if she is the one you should marry, even if you met a nice and cool guy who looks like the man on the white horse in your dreams, you have to be patient and take a reflection time before making any step further, or reacting to his approach attempts if he is the one making steps.

You need to put your emotions aside and think logically about him before you end up marrying the wrong man. The criteria given in the previous article written for men, is applicable for you too, especially the fact that he should be older than you and respectful toward your ambitions and goals. But when it comes to men, things are a little bit different.

It’s not only a matter of his personality and behavior but in the first place a matter of him being ready to have a serious relationship with a woman, being able to take the responsibilities of being a husband, a father and in charge of a family. Let’s get started and take a look to 4 of the most important things you need to pay attention to.

He is not a philander

If he is all the time flirting with every woman he encounters, and in the worst case having so many casual relationships with women, it’s a big sign that he is not the one. Yes, a man always surrounded by women can look attractive and hot, and maybe he can be a nice guy too, but No! Don’t make the common mistake and think that you can change him and make him have all his attention, interest and affection for you, and you only.

You will never succeed no matter how close it looks to what you are planning. This kind of men doesn’t have yet the state of mind and maturity you are looking for, they see being with women just like a way to have fun, and to eliminate boredom from their everyday life. 

He is not arrogant and conceited

Take a look at the way he reacts when he makes a mistake or when he is wrong about something, or when he receives an advice. If he shows an offensive attitude and refuses to admit his mistakes, you have to stay away from him.

Many women make the error of marrying a conceited man, because they didn’t manage to make the difference between arrogance and self-confidence, and after a short time after marriage they start suffering from not being heard and respected by their husbands, and having to be all the time agreeing with him even if he is not right. 

Being a husband needs humility and modesty. The right man is someone who knows the limits of his pride, who listens to his wife’s advice, respects her ideas, and isn't rude even if he is actually right. You can take a look at this article to know more about this kind of toxic people.

He is not playing love games

He is not trying to apply tutorials about:”How to make her crazy about you?”, he is not trying to look perfect to attract your attention, he is not playing hide and seek with you, or trying to make you feel confused and all the other love games we all know. Those games can be exciting and fun, but that’s not what you are looking for in a husband.

You need to choose the one who is just himself, not trying to make women addicted to him; he just doesn’t care about this kind of things anymore. He is clear, simple, confident and most important mature.

He has compassion

He may look friendly and have compassion with you when he hears about your health problem for example, but that doesn’t mean anything yet. A man can fake sympathy when he likes you. You need to pay attention to the way he treats all people especially when they are in need, not only you, his colleagues, his friends, his parents, even people he doesn’t know. “I only care about you! Screw the world” is a wrong thing, trust me you are the one who will get screwed if you marry this type of men. Yes… rude but it’s the truth.